Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Breathing Out



I started doing yoga in March. Sure, my arms are a little more toned, and my core is a little stronger, but I've stayed in it for the mental benefits. More often than not, the difference between a good day and bad one is whether or not I made it to yoga. This was made clearer to me during a class I took last week. At the end of class, after we eased into this pose, the teacher instructed us to let go of something we were holding on to with every exhale. I thought to myself, "Well, this shouldn't take too long." However, 17 breaths later, I was still breathing out resentments, disappointments, and insecurities I wasn't even aware were still hanging around.

The protagonist of Susanna Daniel's novel Stiltsville also grapples with letting go. At the novel's beginning, twenty-something Frances travels to Miami for a college friend's wedding. After one of the guests invites her to a house standing on stilts in the middle of the bay, Frances not only falls in love with the ocean, but she falls in love with the house's owner Dennis. Soon after, she gives up her life in Georgia and moves to Florida to be with Dennis.

Frances and Dennis marry. Frances has a baby and falls in love again...with motherhood. However, after several miscarriages, she has to let go of the idea of her daughter having siblings. They continue to travel to the stilt house on weekends. Occasionally leaving Margo with relatives, they host friends at the house. But one weekend, a flirtatious guest leaves Frances wondering if her marriage will last.
  
Frances and Dennis stay together as Margo grows up and leaves for college. Now an empty-nester, Frances takes up tennis. And the attentions of her tennis coach. Another near indiscretion is avoided when Frances must comfort her daughter after a tragic incident at her college.  

More years pass. Frances watches Margo marry, and finds out Dennis has a debilitating illness. Faced with his death, Frances must decide if she is willing to let go of her life in Miami once he has gone.   

This is a story of a marriage. And as with all marriages, it never hurts for the main players to breathe deeply every once in a while and let go.

2 comments:

Lomagirl said...

Sounds like a great book- thanks for the recommendation- and the encouragement to get back to yoga. I quit going over a year ago, and still think about going back. You go every day?

morningstar said...

Good to hear from you! I try to go to a 5:30am class every morning (M-F). I don't always make it, but when I do, I never regret it. I need to catch up on your blog :)